We often hear that when women are praised, they always retort with “oh it was nothing”, “it’s not really hard as it seems” “I’m just doing my job”.
What is wrong with these statements? Are they not one of the principles of work ethics and good social interaction? Frankel (2004) argued that “when women make things appear look easy or seamless, when in fact they required Herculean efforts isn’t a great marketing technique”.
So what is the author’s point? Frankel claims that one of the biggest mistake that women do in their corporate lives is working too hard, yet refusing to voice out or even accept mere verbal commendations for what they do. In effect of this, they tend to miss out opportunities that might have bring them up the corporate ladder or bring about certain proposals that they need from the company that they work for.
The importance of learning to capitalize on one’s performance is something that women should be aware of. When commended for what they do, women should look the person in the eye and respond with a simple “Thank you”.
Also, women should avoid downplaying her efforts, as modesty does not really help in achieving what they really wanted to happen. In addition with this, the aforementioned can also express their acknowledgment for the commendation and at the same time their gratitude to their superiors by passing mere notes of appreciation.
Another thing that makes women look appear less that their worth is the act of smiling too much. Yes, you read it right- smiling toooo muuccchhh.
Frankel (2004) said that women are socialized to smile more than their male counterparts. As such the author said: “When men don’t smile, they’re taken seriously. When women don’t smile, we’re often asked, “What’s wrong?” Due to these behaviors that are somehow stigmatized to women, the latter often find herself smiling at all times.
What is wrong with such an act?
Frankel (2004) said that the act of smiling should not be something that women should be wary about, however the idea of the appropriate time to smile is what they should be careful. Women must learn to match their facial expression to their messages. When delivering serious messages, refrain from smiling too much, as one’s body language indeed has an effect in terms of how people will view you. Also, it is important to not eliminate the smile entirely just to be taken seriously. The projection of cheerfulness and friendliness that a smile usually brings about is also a plus factor to women.
There are lots of subconscious mistakes that women did that in the long run prevented them from reaching their goals. These are only two of what they should be watching for: modesty and the smile.